Feminity

Every year I wear the same costume – a colonial dress my grandma and I made from a Felicity pattern about 4 years ago. I love the squared neckline and the lace accents and the blue flowered material, I almost feel like I’ve stepped back in time (except not really, because the people in Star Trek costumes bring me back to reality) I stand taller and feel more graceful and feminine.
I realized the other day, that it’s not the dress that sends my posture into a more correct position, nor does it make me more graceful, I simply feel that way and carry myself likewise. So, I’ve decided to experiment – I’m going to try and carry myself with more grace and poise (and hopefully work on my posture) this month and see how it goes. Initially I thought about wearing more skirts, since they seem to help, but in this climate, I would freeze before being graceful. In lieu of that, I’m doing more stretches (just basic ones, most of them I learned from ballet) and trying to sit up straighter when I’m crocheting or working on my laptop.
I gave up training myself to become more poised and graceful a few years ago, and I regret it. At the end of this month, I’d like to stand tall at 4’11 and I’d like to be able to walk and carry myself in a way that exudes both femininity and confidence (without having to dress like a colonial).
Who knows, maybe I’ll take up dancing again.